chittani wrote:Tom, I was interested to see your response and had meant to get back to you. If that is the case (and I see no reason not to believe what you say) then they should talk to you. I wonder whether you are really making it as easy for them as you could. Things like the Pincham video and YouTube attacks, which I suppose you to be involved with or at least very supportive of, are not really going to encourage anyone to sit down with you. If what I say was worth anything with these people I would tell them they should meet. And if it was worth anything with you, I would suggest you offer to lay down your metaphorical arms in exchange. That would give the authorities some reason to put pressure on the people concerned.
Oh, do me a favour! If the abusers want to find excuses not to meet and apologise to their victims, they will!
You may be interested to know that I have fully made my peace with every former teacher who has sincerely apologised to me either in writing or face to face. I have treated these brave men with respect and courtesy in our brief correspondence and meetings and they have done the same to me. We have settled our differences and now we all get on with our lives as, I think, happier human beings. Debenham and co. have had the same opportunity to apologise since long before the "Pincham video and YouTube attacks". They have refused to do so. This, I would suggest, has nothing to do with "attacks" (as you choose to call them) from their victims and a lot to do with a lack of moral integrity or even the conviction that they were right to abuse us.