I agree with you sydneykatieking ..
Jo-Anne that is such a great post, really spot on ..thank you.
"Your presence also validates their own choice"
I find this true in my own experience, whenever I saw things that were not right, had doubts etc,
I would look to my peers and think .. well they are not concerned it must be just me ..my ego,
something for me to overcome.
I am trying to say here that the presence of many good people in school is what gave it
'validation', as ... surely they could not all be wrong.
A reason to put up with rubbish, because if you wanted 'The Truth' you had to accept
'what goes with it' as well.
And maybe we were all doing that, and in doing so, playing our part in Nina Mavro's dream.
In the old guard, it was an unwritten but known law that you do not communicate
with those that have left.
When I left the 'friday group' I wrote letters to all my group members, I did not phone them, for
fear of sounding negative if I went into details. (I had been in dire trouble for that before!)
I had one phone call from one of my group who was friendly and wished me the best but
obviously was uncomfortable.
After over 20 years with these people that you have spent so much time with, including many
week residentials .. people whom you felt you knew so well ..it certainly was an eye opener.
Not that I blame them, it is the manipulations of NM.
I was told some years back by NM not to contact an ex student friend who had just lost her mother,
not even to send a card. I was told if she calls you to tell you herself, just say you are sorry of
her loss, and not to prolong the conversation.
Possibly today students like enlightened that have had much less exposure to the Mavros,
and more with student tutors, would not feel this way if a friend left.