Stanton wrote:I'm sorry to hear it and it seems like Mary Pickering also regrets it. But there may be a benefit taken as a whole. Please don't think I am in any way making light of the incident if I say that the more openness there is -the better. For as long as relatives and parents think their child was happy at St James (if he or she wasn't) then to that extent they can shut their eyes and minds. It is, in its way, living a lie.
Stanton, you're missing the point!
The Letter was private and confidential.. Mary Pickering, John Story or someone within their confidence broke the trust that was afforded them. In doing so, they have blown whatever small chance they may have had to bring about reconciliation.
Can you not see what damage this has done. Can you not see that they have demonstrated the very behaviour that we have been complaining about all this time. All we hear from the same is that the place has changed - all that was in the past etc, and yet here we are, 20+ years later and NOTHING has changed in the slightest. The first chance they get to prove themselves worthy of our trust and they betray it!
It is of no consequence whether you feel that it was a good thing that the parents find out, the point is that it is not for the governors to make that decision - that is for the family to resolve themselves. But no, the SES yet again takes the arogant view that it knows best and completely ignore what is the right thing to do.
They must go, and a non SES independent should be brought in to oversee the reconciliation process, or at least what's left of it after the governors concerned have made such a pigs ear of it.