http://www.caic.org.au/miscult/ses/Chap ... 20Cult.htm
Make of it what you will.
The wisdom of SES ‘Czar’ Sheila Rosenberg (deceased) and their take on marriage, its destructive interference in family, a woman’s place and control.
83 Brook Green,
London , W6 7BD
November 5, 1981
One thing you need not worry about in all this is the SES. It’s not so much that “it can take care of itself and its members” – the phrase one is tempted to use – but rather that it trusts itself to be cared for, and Therefore is cared for. “The Absolute is absolutely conscious, but it is very difficult (for us) to trust the depth of his feeling for every minute movement in the creation… The state of responding to the Will of the Absolute has two stages. The first is to provide for others and not for oneself: and the second is to provide neither for oneself nor anyone else… The Absolute looks after anyone who stops looking after everyone.”
We can hardly understand the second stage, but we can manage the first, some of the time. That way lies salvation. You would not be helped in this, or anything else, by ceasing to attend the school; and I suspect any gesture of that sort, now, would only increase your husband’s rage.
A divorce process is an unhappy and frightening thing; everybody knows that. That is why you were warned against it. But it is like any amputation. It involves a risk because there will be reaction on both sides of the incision: a reaction against the severance of some small unity. Know that this is how it must be and resist imagining about what might happen.
Nevertheless, be watchful and if there should be any threat of physical danger to the children, you will have to withdraw, with them, from your house. That would be a pity. Other than that, continually assign your safety into the hands of the Absolute. Even, perhaps, on occasion, manage to summon up some gratitude that through your suffering, as well as (edit), some debt is being paid off.
Above all, try to be content not to know what is going to happen next. That is every woman’s problem – fear of being taken by surprise. It is only fear of not being able to control the situation. One just has to remember that no one never has controlled anything, and never will: not even the most “minute movement in the creation”.
The only practical thing I would really like you to do is to tell Mr MacLaren how things are. Having spoken with him those months ago, you would feel better if you told him what you were driven to do: and how matters stand.
It is no surprise that questions were raised at the highest level by members of the Church of England regarding mental health issues and family breakup, etc, which of course fell on deaf ears. It is notable that St James School is no longer associated with the Church and is now considered to be “non-denominational”. Even though followers of SES philosophy believe it to be complimentary to their religious following, the Church clearly does not and considers it to be a New Religious Movement and which therefore makes St James Schools own website disingenuous and misleading. Also there is no reference made to the Inquiry into criminal behaviour which did take place, regularly.